Tipping in the U.S: the rules every American knows (but Swedes often miss)

One of the things we Swedes often find a bit stressful in the U.S. is tipping. How much should you give? When? To whom? And what if you get it wrong?

I felt exactly the same way in the beginning. In Sweden, we’re not used to this system—but in the U.S., tipping isn’t just a bonus, it’s a standard part of many people’s income. That’s simply how it works, which is why it’s important for us as visitors to understand how it works.

That’s also why I usually say there are a few simple rules—rules that every American knows, but that we as Swedes can easily miss at first.

Here’s my personal guide—how I typically handle it when I’m in the States.

Tipping in the U.S: the rules every American knows

Restaurants & Bars

Restaurants I always tip at least 20% at restaurants. That’s my absolute minimum rule.

Sometimes gratuity is already included, especially for larger groups. It will usually say “gratuity included” on the bill—then you don’t need to add anything extra.

If you can, tip in cash. It’s always the most appreciated.

I rarely tip when ordering takeout—there’s generally no expectation for that.

Bartender When ordering directly at the bar, I usually think:

• At least $1 per beer or glass of wine

• At least $2 per cocktail
  

Coat check & restrooms

• Coat check: $1–2 per jacket or bag
  

Food delivery (to home or hotel)I tip $2–5 or about 15%, depending on what feels reasonable.

Tipping at hotels

There are a lot of small situations where tipping is expected.

• Doorman calling a taxi: $2–3

• Help with luggage: $2–5 per bag

• Housekeeping: about $5 per day
  

I always leave the tip for housekeeping daily—and very clearly. Sometimes I even write a small note saying the money is for them. I’ve even written it in Spanish just to avoid any misunderstandings. It matters to me that the right person actually receives it.

• Concierge helping with bookings (like show tickets): $5–20 per reservation
  

Transportation

• Taxi: 15–20%

• Airport shuttle: $2–3 per person

• Valet parking: $5–10
  

I know it can feel unfamiliar at first—almost a little uncomfortable. But once you understand that tipping is a big part of people’s income, it gets easier.

For me, it’s about respect and appreciation. And if I’m ever unsure, I always choose to be a little more generous rather than the other way around.